Wondering how to make a relationship work?
The most important thing you should ask yourself is whether or not the relationship in question is worth saving. Too often than not we prolong suffering and unhappiness just because we don’t want to be alone.
It usually takes around 3 months of living with someone before you see their true colors. What does this mean? It means you shouldn’t get overly hung up on how awesome someone was when you first met them because those first few weeks everyone hides their character flaws. The’re trying to put the best of themselves forward. As we all do.
The person you are living with now is the person you will be dealing with for the rest of your life. Although people change- its rarely for the better.
Ok… I’ll stop being negative.
The only way to make a relationship work is for both of you to want it to. If you both realize the relationship needs work then your on the right track!
- Both parties have to be willing to accept responsibility for the relationships shortcomings.
- Both parties MUST be willing to compromise.
Is your relationship worth saving?
- Do you have trust?
- Do you have fun together?
- Are you both fulfilled sexually?
My wife likes to talk after sex. She always calls me from a Motel.
Sex, Companionship and Sex are VERY important in a relationship… did I say sex twice? I meant trust. If you don’t have it now do you really think you will discover it 10 years down the road? Not unless gravity starts working backwards!
If your unsure take some time apart. Distance makes the heart grow fonder! And if all else fails try online dating! It worked for me.
Here are some statistics for you:
- Divorce rate in the USA: 41%
- Average age for first marriage: 28 for men, 26 for women.
- Percentage of people with an STD in the USA: 47% (counting HPV).
Don’t get discouraged! You only have one life to live so don’t settle (Unless your 40 then its time to settle)!!
One last piece of advice:
The only way to win an argument is to avoid it!